How to help someone with Depression

If you are worried about a friend or family member with depression or think they may be suicidal the first thing you need to is ask how they are doing. Don t try to solve their problems, just be there for them and listen. Listening to what they have to say will let them know you care and they will appreciate it.

If someone is talking about suicide, please take it seriously and contact a professional immediately. Click on our Immediate Help icon for who to contact.

When someone is depressed or feeling suicidal, it may be something seemingly small (to you) or something which only affects them indirectly. Don t make the mistake of thinking it is not that big a deal, there is always a lot more there that is causing their suicidal feelings, this is just one of many things that is troubling them.

Often the small things act as the trigger to becoming suicidal or acting out suicidal thoughts. Listen for things like feelings of hopelessness, feeling alone, no reason to live, feelings of failure and isolation.

Always offer your support, provide encouragement, inspire them to do something they normally like to do. It is very important to make sure they do all the talking about how they are feeling. It may take a little time to get them talking so be patient, know it is very hard for them to talk about their dark feelings. Please don t be afraid to ask direct questions. Take your time, go slow, speak softly and please don t assume you know what they are feeling.

If someone is saying they are really depressed or considering suicide, this is not attention seeking. If you do, this can be a way they to try to prove you wrong. If you make this mistake you will regret it for a long time. Do not to pressure the person into talking if they don’t want to, but give them the time and space to talk openly without interrupting them. Just being there with them is more important than you know.

Sometimes people want to talk to someone outside their situation as well. Suggesting they talk to a professional or visit their family doctor is a great place to start and should be a top action on your list. Risk factors you should also consider can be found on our About Suicide page found on the right hand side of your screen. If you can t answer yes or no to any of the risk factors, ask them about it or phrase a question to get the appropriate answer.

Great support ideas everyone should know.

• Know the warning signs. Visit our About Depression or About Suicide Page.

• Get quality clinical care for mental, physical, and substance abuse disorders immediately.

• Consistent support and understanding from friends, family and our communities.

• Make sure they make time for themselves, to relax and do things they enjoy.

• Develop skills in problem solving, conflict resolution, and nonviolent way of handling disputes.

• Eat a healthy and balanced diet.

• Try to get plenty of sleep. This may be hard at first but is extremely important.

• Exercise regularly. Walking is a great way to start!

• Spend time with friends and family as much as possible.

• Talk to other people about your depression and what is bothering you.

• Be aware of your strengths and use them to overcome your weaknesses.